5 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF BEFORE HIRING A MENTOR

1. Is it mentoring, coaching or therapy that I need?

Some people may need a guide to overcome their challenges or make life changes. Others may require more intense support in the form of clinical therapy.

If you are unsure what kind of support you need I encourage you to speak with a mentor, coach, therapist or your GP before signing up and committing to a programme. I offer a no obligation chat before any programme is signed up to, an opportunity to see if we are suitable to work together.

People benefit from different kinds of support. Mentoring or coaching aren't always the best option.

A mentor is someone you trust, someone who has experience in an area of life that you'd like to learn from and with. Someone to help connect you and guide you into the person you want to be.

A life coach is someone who helps people make progress in their lives in order to attain greater fulfillment. This process with a life coach is self defined and client led. A life coach does not give advice. They work by asking questions and allowing you to discover and lead your own learning.

A Therapist is a licensed mental health professional who specialise in helping clients develop better cognitive and emotional skills, reduce symptoms of mental illness, and cope with various life challenges to improve their lives.

My method and approach.
I combine mentoring with coaching approaches, providing a safe space for you to feel empowered to make changes. Taking you from chaos to calm, increasing you confidence and self-belief. I use a conversation based approach that's informal and allows you the opportunity to speak about yourself, discuss things that you may have never spoken about before and together we create a space in which you explore who you are and how you want to live, creating steps and a plan for how you take things forward. My guidance, advice and support is there each step of the way. My approach isn't Therapy or counseling, there will be instances where the support some may require is higher than what I can offer, I can provide recommendations to other professionals who can accommodate those needs.

Change is always a challenge.

Our brains are conditioned and trained to instinctively protect us and keep us safe. Often when we try and change it is met with resistance and we quickly slip back into old and familiar habits even if they are ones we hate or that do not serve us.

Are you ready and willing to tackle these habits and behaviours that don't serve you?

Are you ready to step forward into being uncomfortable, to answer difficult questions and create space for breakthroughs?

If you feel like you want a space to be curious, to learn and discover new things about yourself and step forward as a truer, happier and more confident version of you, then you might be ready to hire me as your mentor.

2. Am I actually ready and willing to change?

3. Do I have a connection to the mentor or coach?

This is so important! Not everyone is suited to work together.

Before you invest your time, energy and funds into a mentor or coach, make sure you have properly checked them out. Browse their website, look for client feedback, follow them on social media, engage with them via email or a direct message.

Get a feeling and idea of the person before you sign up and hand any payment over. Many people who deliver these services offer free calls or trials. I encourage you to try some out and see whose approach and methods you enjoy, who makes you feel welcome and encouraged and safe to be you, who seems supportive and friendly and can put just the right amount of pressure on to kick your backside and enable you to start living as the person you want to be.

I offer a 30 minute aspire call for anyone interested in working with me. You can book it here.

I always welcome people to join me for a free Sunday night setup session before they sign up and commit to the membership. I’d love to see you there and support you in releasing the past week, setting up for the new one and giving you the opportunity to relax into those last few hours of the weekend.

If you book a call or come and join me on a Sunday there's never any pressure to sign up or to work with me further. I genuinely hope that that 30 min call or 1hr session serves and helps you in some way even if our paths don't cross again in the future. If you try something with someone and they give you the hard sell, make you feel uncomfortable or that your life will be lacking without their services then I encourage you to drop them and drop them fast. Get out, block them and don't look back!!

'WE CAN DO ANYTHING BUT WE CAN'T ALWAYS DO EVERYTHING'

Am I ready to put my hands up and ask for help?

Do I recognise I need a space outside my family or friends that's safe for me to talk? Somewhere that's welcoming for me to express where I want to be and the changes I want to make?

Do I recognise that I am worthy of the support and time and encouragement of someone else?

This question goes alongside - Am I ready to change?
You must also ask yourself if you are ready to have someone keep you accountable to make those changes?

When I work with clients the conversation isn't always easy. I ask HARD questions and there are times when they resent me or the guidance we discuss, we have open and honest conversations in a safe and confidential space, if you aren't willing to look at the dark parts and the stickiness of why change isn't happening then you aren't ready to work with a me. It may sound brutal but it's honest. If you aren't ready to be held accountable by someone else to deal with your own sh*t and step forward into learning and growing and being your amazing awesome self. Then you aren't ready to work with a mentor or coach.

You may want to go it alone, you might find the pressure of someone else overwhelming rather than encouraging, I urge you to find a path that works for you. If you think that having someone as an accountability buddy, cheerleader, unbiased and non judgemental listening ear and guide would be helpful, then a mentor or life coach might be the right option.

4. Do I think that having someone to keep me accountable will help? Am I willing to accept that I need and deserve some help?

5. Do I understand that by throwing money at a problem or signing up with a mentor does not automatically mean change will happen?

Am I sick of my own bullshit?

Completely fed up with always starting on monday and never getting anywhere. Paying for services, products & buying into the latest fad that's guaranteed to change your life. Well you’ll know by now or should know that just by signing up doesn't mean that the outcome is guaranteed.

The biggest thing you can invest is your time and effort. If you are not willing to prioritise yourself, time for the sessions, or the energy to create changes then you can throw £1mil at it and the outcomes you want still won't happen. Everything will continue as it is.

You need to create and priorities the time for the programme you sign up to. You need to invest your energy into the tasks, the learning and the homework. New healthy habits don't just appear from nowhere, there needs to be a conscious effort to make them happen.

If you've got any questions,
I'd love to hear from you. Please fill in the form or ping me an email and I'll get back to you as soon as I can.